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Madonna and Child: A Modern-day Crucifixion: November 2006

Monday, November 06, 2006

Celebrity Intercountry Adoption - An Awfully Off-mark Focus of Our Lens (2006-10-26)

Celebrity Intercountry Adoption – An Awfully Off-mark Focus of Our Lens (2006-10-26)

It was just inevitable that squabble and controversy would explode from Madonna’s visit to Malawi, the fourth poorest country in the world.

Madonna arrived in Malawi on Wednesday Oct 4 2006, intent on providing close to $5 million in education and other various programs toward alleviating the dire adversity and destitution faced by the indigenous orphans. She was also in the process of adopting a child from the nation which has a child mortality rate of 103/1000, an HIV infection percentage of 30%, and where 14.2% of the population is already HIV positive.

This particular adoption is currently being strongly criticized by many various factions including the Human Rights Consultative Committee (HRCC) inMalawi, and the Eye of The Child protection society, as it seems that Madonna was granted certain exemptions from the country’s dated adoption process.

However, the director of child services in Malawi, Benston Kilembe has repeatedly said that the couple (Madonna and husband Guy Ritchie) had followed all the normal processes, which had actually begun months ago; and thus, the official application for the adoption of the child, David Banda, was approved through the High Court of Lilongwe, where an interim order was granted.
This provision allows David Banda to reside with the singer for 18 months, while being monitored by officials from Malawi before a final approval is given for the child to wholly join with the family.

The majority of international adoptive parents reside in the US. Over the last few decades, US international adoption of children from developing countries has been on a constant rise, and especially so in the last 15 years.
Because of society’s misdirected focal point on celebrity, if ever a child from an impoverished nation is adopted by any celebrity, the details are naturally widely publicized. The media has recently dubbed the existence of celebrity intercountry adoptions as a mere “trend” while we are tirelessly bombarded with the respective particulars, even though such adoptions have been happening for years (Mia Farrow was doing it since the 1970’s).
Well! This is so laughable that I seem to be way past laughing! I just… it’s not… I just can’t laugh.
What is done (and thus seen in the public eye) by a few celebrities in this realm is merely a mirroring of what has been occurring for decades. A percentage of theUS population is involved in trans-continental, transcultural adoption, and a few celebrities unsurprisingly fall into that percentile.

Jini Roby is an associate professor of social work at Brigham Young University, whose research, according to Noelle Nicolai in Crisis Calls for a Radical Increase in International Adoption of African Orphans, has proven that the coupling of the epidemic of AIDS in Africa with the orphan crisis “leave consideration of intercountry adoption as an imperative.”

In-country adoptions, also known as kin adoptions, were previously found to be effective, “but the kin system is now saturated and cannot adequately support the growing number of parentless children without external support.” Abuse and neglect is not unheard of and, says Roby, “although it may not be the ideal situation, a permanent stable home is still the better option.”
International adoption simply is the viable alternative.

So, why is it that so much of the media is blatantly disrespecting the attention that it itself is bringing to strife-ridden, AIDS-ravaged Africa?
I am not too sure, but this fact may have something to do with it: Last year, American families adopted 7,906 orphans from China, as opposed to 440 from Ethiopia, which had more orphans than all of the other African countries combined.

(Sigh)… Will it ever end?

I used to think so. But I’m older now, and hopefully a little wiser.

We can always have hope, though.

Could it be that as a genuinely concerned citizen of our world, maybe Madonna has somehow actually educated herself on these issues and is yet again trying to accomplish something philanthropic?

Were the international adoptions of other celebrities given this much condemnation and scrutinized this closely by the press?

The world is especially hard on the Material Girl. It is way past the start of a new millennium. We are living in 2006/2007 and people are still jealous, spiteful and afraid while watching someone who embodies an idea of free, innovative and different thinking.

What are we doing to ourselves?

Who are we as sentient beings?

At least there is some good that has come out of the despicable media farce that threatens to even further thicken poor Madge’s skin. Some much needed awareness has been raised regarding Malawi, and the possibility of international adoption is now open to those who may not have previously considered it as an option.

Girl! You better stock up on that Nivea!

During a short and very sour interview on Tuesday Oct 17 2006 with Suhana Marchand on CBC’s Newsworld Today, the forgettable Michael Blugerman, proclaimed invidiously that the child, David Banda “will have a charmed life, but how does that help the other children?” Well Mr… er… whatever, I really fail to see what, if anything at all, the separate, individual life of David Banda has to do with any other children, anywhere. Regardless of the fact that an indescribable amount of awareness has been raised by Madonna, David Banda and her Raising Malawi Foundation regarding the plight of “Africa’s AIDS orphans”, and the option of intercountry adoption.
This insidious Michael… whatever, then went on to falsely, recklessly claim that a foreign adoptive parent has to reside for at least 2 years in Malawi during the adoption process. Under the Malawi adoption system, an applicant should be resident in the country for at least 1 year - not 2.

But, nothing in this world is simply black or white!
Except maybe for the following statement: Basically the critics of this particular adoption would rather see one more child suffer the horrible plight destined to so many of Africa’s children, than to have allowed Madonna to continue to do her work without the extreme fanfare and drawing of attention to out-dated stipulations that have absolutely nothing to do with what Africa is facing today.

Interim orders are granted every day! They are inherent in all normal processes.
In light of what is happening in nations across the continent of Africa, the particular issue of an interim order being granted to Madonna in this case should be seen as even more normal!

It should be… but it isn’t.

Instead, it is wielded. As an effective weapon against the aid and relief of a rapidly dissolving representation and even foundation of human culture.

Taking into consideration the contemptible effects of colonialization, many people regard a high concern for a child’s welfare in a situation where he/she is taken away to be cared for by those of a different culture. This is a genuine, valid concern, and as Jini Roby stated in a discussion with me on Sat. Oct 21 2006, “many of the countries have a struggle with the past history of white colonialists and human slavery. They can’t believe that now a white person can really love a black child to the fullest degree.” However, this way of thinking can only hinder any benefit that can be gained through the incident of international adoption and, as Roby went on to say, “there are many barriers on both sides… that is why people who can traverse that chasm are to be congratulated.”

At this point, and in addition to the establishment of the charitable Raising Malawi Foundation, her Madjesty’s immeasurable heart (which, let’s face it, has to be at least vast enough to be able to house enough love in there for Madonna herself) is simply trying to help one more child avoid the inevitable: an extremely severe life of hardship and possibly death.

On behalf of the Eye of The Child protection society, Boniface Mandere said on Oct 16 2006: "The court seems to have made a decision based on Madonna’s wealth. But being a good parent is not about money. It is about caring, having heart. It’s about love.” Now then, if the Eye of The Child protection society really believes that Madonna has no care or love to offer, maybe the injunction they should be seeking is one that contests the multi-million dollar establishment of the Raising Malawi Foundation!

To add insult to injury, it was reported by many sections of the media that the confused father of David Banda, Yohane has claimed that he didn’t fully understand the details behind the recent events in his life. Well, who can say really what motivations have stirred this upset?

In an interview with Time Magazine (posted on Oct 24 2006), he has stated that he was not interested in reversing the adoption, as that would mean a significant demise to his son. As of Oct 26 2006, he was very concerned that Madonna would abandon the adoption: “These so-called human rights activists are harassing me everyday, threatening me that I am not aware of what I am doing… I’m afraid David will be sent back and the orphanage may not even accept him back. So where will he end up? Here? He will certainly die.”

Even if Madonna had considered returning David Banda to the hesitant hands of his birth father, and went on to adopt a different child, one without any living immediate family - so as to avoid any likewise complications, she would inescapably risk reinforcing the media’s unscrupulous view of the visit to Malawi as a mere “shopping trip.”

Oh Maddie! Our prayers are with you.
(I see a lengthy skit at the mental asylum in your future)!

During the much anticipated interview on Oprah aired on Oct 25 2006, Madonna thanked Oprah not for the chance to defend the adoption, but rather “for the opportunity to set the record straight.”
On being asked if she was hurt by the “negative press,” the singer replied: “I wouldn’t say I’m hurt by it… I’m disappointed, more than anything.” She harbors a concern that the media’s negative connotations to this particular incident may deter others from the idea of adopting from Africa.
A teary-eyed yet resolute Madonna then went on to state that her focus was turned to Africa while doing Live AID in 2004 with Bob Geldof, and that the couple (Madonna and Guy Ritchie) “decided to adopt 2 years ago,” although a location was not in mind. However, while becoming familiar with, and experiencing Malawi during the work that included the development of the Raising Malawi Foundation (the idea of which came about in Nov 2005), it seemed only natural that the adoption solidify with a child from Malawi.
Photographs were exhibited, and it was evident that David Banda is, at present, a very appreciated and cherished part of the family.
Speaking of 13 month old David, she disclosed that since his arrival at the orphanage when he was 6 weeks old, “he had survived malaria and tuberculosis, and no-one from his immediate family had ever been to visit him.” She believes, and rightfully so, that the obnoxious presence of the world press has frightened the local farmer, Yohane Banda, into a frantic worry over the adoption of his birth-son, after he had originally expressed gratitude toward Madonna for giving his son a life in the face of certain death.
At the close of the interview, firmly reinforcing her mandate, Madonna articulated: “I will give David an education and a chance for a better life, and what better way to go back and help his own people, and help (Malawi), and be a voice for the people, than to be able to first have a life and be educated.”

Madonna intends to return to Malawi often, every year, and hopes that David would be able to go with her, as well as the rest of her immediate family.

Whew! This has been one trip!

Sadly, there is no celebrity trend that I see here. Only prejudice, covetousness and misplaced resentment.
And although Madonna has seemingly gained some understanding from a pathologically unkind media while yet again deflecting some seriously incomprehensible hostility, this is only temporary, as usual.

Yes, I am sorry to inform you that, in the words of Phil Collins and Genesis, “This is the world we live in.”


-Kevin Dass

The Human Being Behind the Madonna and Child (2006-11-02)

The Human Being Behind the Madonna and Child (2006-11-02)

A lot has been said of Madonna Louise Veronica Ciccone Ritchie in the time that her presence has captivated the world.
But being humanitarian, was hardly one of them.

Many civil rights groups became unreasonably frustrated when reports of an adoption by the singer came to light. This one adoption was the subject of the tabloids and mockery for more than just a week.

Since the Oct 25 airing of the Oprah interview, Madonna has been on the BBC Newsnight, The Associated Press, NBC’s Today Show, Dateline, and Live with Regis and Kelly, and even Access Hollywood.

In the prime time interview with Today Show host Meredith Vieira aired Wed Nov 1, 2006 on Dateline NBC, Madonna very candidly discussed in detail, the abusive media frenzy that enveloped her recent movements in Africa.

Publicity is a part of Madonna’s job, but her actions in Africa were not a publicity stunt. These were made very public only because it was Madonna that is involved - her movements are always public. “I expected people to be cynical and say ‘Oh! She’s just doing this ‘cuz she wants attention’… people accused me, when I had my daughter, that I did it as a publicity stunt; I mean I expected that… but… I didn’t expect to be demonized.”

Madonna adopted from Africa as opposed to America for the obvious reasons. It simply only made sense for her to adopt from Africa, for as she expressed (and I just could not have put it better, myself):

There aren’t overcrowded orphanages with no adults to look after (the children) in America. You know that in an orphanage in America (the orphans) are going to get their basic needs met. They’re going to have food; they’re going to have clothes; they’re going to have medicine; and people are going to look after them. This does not exist in Africa. You know a child is going to survive in an orphanage in America… It’s a state of emergency (in Africa).

The singer has been deeply affected by the extent of the dehumanizing conditions in hot continient.

She also made an excellent point regarding the insane amount of resources that has been spent on the scrutiny of the adoption, speculating on why this huge waste wasn’t put toward a more worthwhile cause. “With all the chaos, pain and suffering in the world, the fact that my adoption of a child (David Banda)… who was living in an orphanage, was the number one story for a week in the world … to me, that says more about our inability to focus on the real problems, and our desire to have distractions and to be consumed with people’s personal lives and gossip.”

She believes that there is a serious aspect of racism involved here as well, since “it’s still considered taboo” to adopt a child of a different colour.

In 2005 the US adopted 7,906 orphans from China, whereas just 440 were adopted from Ethiopia. (There were more orphans in Ethiopia alone than in all of the other nations across Africa).

Unfortunately, Madonna is correct.

Skin colour is an important factor for many people.
But not for her – as she asserts: “I don’t live in a white world… I live in the world… and my children are exposed to all cultures and all races and many belief systems.”

Madonna had also thought of helping Yohane Banda take care of David, even though the father had already started a new life with a new marriage in another village, but stated that David’s birth-father had refused any offer of support when they spoke in court. “When I met him, I said ‘I would be happy to… facilitate with you… to bring him back to your village and help you to financially raise him.’ And he said ‘No.’ That was my sign that it was my responsibility to look after him.” She re-iterated that she had wanted a child that nobody else seemed to want.

The singer also spoke to Nancy Odell on Access Hollywood. Her early childhood without a mother has naturally formed a basis for a kinship with orphans everywhere. “I know what that pain feels like.”
And through a series of children’s books where 100% of the royalties are assigned to various charities, Madonna tries to bestow hard-learned life-lessons onto budding ears.
(The latest addition to the series, The English Roses – Too Good To Be True, has been also provided to various children projects in Malawi).

During her first interview with British television for the BBC (aired on Nov 1, 2006), Madonna brought up a very good point when speaking with Kirsty Wark: “It’s interesting that when you want to adopt a child you have to go through all of these tests but when you want to have a child no one asks or expects anything of you… so I thought that was an interesting irony.”

I, myself think that this is a very interesting irony.

Although she has only recently made an addition to her family, Madonna divulged during the BBC interview that the possibility of further adoptions is always there: “I wouldn’t rule it out… I would like it to be less complicated in the future… but I would like to experience David for a while and see how it works out.”

(She also confessed that she wouldn’t mind if Hillary Clinton would become the next leader of the US).

Woman! You make another good point!

The Material Girl currently studies a system of Kabbalah. This is no surprise since the Kabbalah is “synonymous with asking questions,” as she explained in an interview with Michael Parkinson a year ago.
Speaking with Meredith Vieira, the singer made it clear that she could never subscribe to any system of organized religion, as these religions are basically organized cults, where everything within any particular religion has to be taken as is, and questions can never be asked.

She was then asked about the red string around David’s hand. The host of The Today Show was informed that he had been born a Christian. (Typically made of thin red wool thread, this red string bracelet, gained in the giving of charity, is worn to ward off the evil eye - as protection against ill-will). Madonna replied that since he was only 13 months old, he was certainly “too young to have been indoctrinated into any kind of belief system,” and that he can believe in whatever he chooses when he was older. “I believe in Jesus and I study Kabbalah… I don’t see why he can’t too. Studying Kabbalah doesn’t mean you can’t be a Christian or a Buddhist or a Muslim or a Jew or agnostic… it’s not a dogmatic religion… it’s a kind of philosophy.”

The controversial performance of Live To Tell from the Confessions World Tour was censored by NBC for a hugely anticipated broadcast of the concert later this month. During this performance, a thorn-crowned Madonna performs in front of yet another cross while numbers roll from 1 to 12 000 000, signifying the number of “AIDS orphans” currently suffering in Africa. (The first time was at the midst of another fierce controversy in a video for the track Like A Prayer in March 1989).
She sensibly agreed to have the censored performance broadcast, and in so doing drive her point home with regards to the AIDS epidemic, in the resulting creation of heated discussion.

Really, who could have ever known that this “mock-crucifixion,” presented in a mere stage show, would actually be mirrored by future events?

Madonna is obviously humanitarian.

And she always has been.

Even back in 1989, a directive of the Like A Prayer video was to confront the narrow-mindedness of racism.

Madonna's career is just replete with philanthropy.

Don't get me wrong - she is selfish at times, of course. But, being selfish is an innate part of the Human condition - in order for us to survive.

She had fought for a certain livelihood, and goes through the required motions within that particular calling - in order to take care of herself and her interests, which are intrinsically good.

Madonna has done good her whole life.

She has consistently strived for excellence.
She has cared about herself (as a human being), enough to establish a career path.And she has continually used her career as an effective motivator for the betterment of society as a whole. “If you want to affect change in the world you do have to have a platform to stand on, and in order to have a platform to stand on, you have to keep doing your job.”

Madonna has been instrumental in paving a way for a great many minority groups.
Isn’t it a ‘good’ thing to have been giving so much of her self, resources and fortune to so many worthwhile causes for decades?

The list goes on and on.

And even though the singer was so severely pilloried by the world in the last month, she is ultimately very happy that so much attention has been brought to Malawi, the horrible situation of AIDS in the world, and the possibility of Intercountry Adoption from Africa.
And this fact is going to anger many, let me tell you.

No matter what Madonna does she is going to be condemned by some.
No matter where she goes.

Some people resent that she is what they wish they were, and doing what they wish they were, and personifying the ideas that they wish they were.

Some people just cannot equate being provocative with being a ‘good’ person, all within the same human entity.

Some people are very closed-minded.

Some people have a one-track mind.

And therein lies the controversy that has unsurprisingly accompanied almost every single one of Madonna’s endeavors.

But, I guess these aspects are here in our realm of existence so that the opposite aspects (facets of true love) can also have a life.

Madonna attests her recent “uncomfortable” experience to people’s inability to focus on what is really important.
I attest the very real crucifixion that Madonna was subjected to, to people’s refusal to give attention to the issues that are really important.

The fact that Madonna is just now being recognized for altruism by a previously vindictive crowd is long overdue, and only out of guilt, it seems to me.

In all fairness however, it cannot be denied that we are all in a perpetual state of learning, and growing. And I think that I do see some light in an otherwise cold, wet, murky pool of darkness.


-Kevin Dass

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